My youngest daughter hosted afternoon tea for family and friends recently.
White damask and vintage doilies.
Cut crystal and silverware.
Old family bone china with delicate patterns.
Pretty vintage frocks that reminded me of my grandmother.
She was a big fan of Osti in the 70's.
The grooming and the up-do.
The multiple ear piercings are a modern give-away though.
The young ladies served,
zucchini slice squares
scones with home made jumble berry jam
The circles keep turning and what was old is new again.
While we have been embracing the cafe culture, young girls have been missing the opportunity to practice their developing skills;
deportment, cooking, flower arranging, home making, grooming, conversation, manners and grace.
I have found myself pondering whether we have blurred some lines, confused some forms and given ground where we had not meant to in our fight for feminism.
Some play that took a domestic form is quite frowned upon now. Mothers I do hope you are encouraging your pre-schoolers to play with tea sets and wash dolly clothes. I hope you throw impromptu high teas for them on rainy days after school and I hope you are giving teens an opportunity to entertain guests in your homes too. We must keep encouraging our children to learn to be ladies and gentlemen. The home education is just as important as the school education.
(Disclaimer: Emma is a real person and in her spare time loves to hang out in daggy track pants, has a small tattoo and is older than she looks at 23 and can produce dimples on demand)